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What is a Spiritual Temperament?

 

Being that God created us in His image (Genesis 1:27, Genesis 2:7), a spiritual temperament can best be defined as a spiritual genetic code or God's imprint upon each of us. The conception of a child involves three entities; mother, father, and the Creator. The mother and father determine our physical DNA and God's input in our spiritual DNA; our spiritual temperament.

Like the Trinity; Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit, we are also a trinity. Spirit, soul, and body. We are a spirit that has a soul that lives in a body. As each person’s body is the same, yet unique (everyone's body parts are placed in accordance, but we each are unique), so is it with our soul; the emotional, thinking, and willful part of each of us. Each person thinks and acts differently and have different desires. The spiritual temperament is the building block of our soul. I will explain each temperament and why it is important to know yours and how it can help you understand yourself, and others with whom you have a relationship. And more importantly, how temperaments are essential to understand the schemes the evil one uses against us in all our relationships, especially with God.

 

TEMPERAMENT 1

MELANCHOLY

 

Introvert, loner, great thinker, genius-prone, very artistic and creative, often found alone in thought, a perfectionistic, slow-paced, great understanding of tasks and systems, a critical and challenging mind, and seeing both the pitfalls and the end results of a project undertaken.

Extremely moody, suffer from “black” depressions, reject people, set standards neither they nor anyone else can meet, develop habits that are very hard to break, have suicidal tendencies, low self-esteem, and are pessimistic.

Good at decisions and responsibilities in known areas, very good leadership abilities. They adhere to the rules and they need very little control over the lives and behavior of others.

Rigid, inflexible, sensitive to failure, fear of the unknown, fear of failure, apt to be a rebel and procrastinate.

Very faithful, loyal friend, and self-sacrificing. Their feelings run deep and tender (even though they lack the ability to express these feelings). They easily empathize with others and can make very deep commitments.

They dissect the past with theoretical “what ifs,” i.e., “what if” they'd had given me flowers, or said, "I love you," back, I would feel loved; “what if” I were prettier, more handsome, smarter, they would love me more. Also, they are critical of others, angry, cruel, vengeful, emotional, rarely tell people how they feel, have a low self-image, and are sensitive to rejection from deep relationships. The loss of a deep relationship (even by death) is devastating to them

 

TEMPERAMENT 2

CHOLERIC

 

Being open, friendly, confident, outgoing, optimistic, tough-minded, task-oriented, perfectionistic with a good mind for envisioning new projects, and an extrovert of a highly selective nature.

Hot-tempered, a people user, although everyone uses people to some degree, the Choleric in “carries the red flag”. They think of themselves as people motivators. They become easily frustrated in their attempts to “motivate” people. They harbor anger and can be cruel and abusive.

Being open, optimistic, outgoing, expressing a great deal of love and affection, and approaching only select people for deep relationships.

Extremely self-centered (although they do not appear this way), indirect behavior, reject people, reject the love and affections of people (they will accept love and affection only according to their terms), are usually cruel to those who reject their manipulation for love and affection.

Tough-willed, a good leader, capable of making intuitive decisions, capable of taking on responsibilities, usually done in an efficient, well-disciplined military fashion. They possess the willpower to carry through to completion.

Anger, cruelty, capable of undertaking any behavior to keep control. They associate with weak people and then resent their weaknesses. To them, the end justifies the means; so they are capable of very poor behavior. They are highly susceptible to burnout.

 

TEMPERAMENT 3

SANGUINE

 

They are friendly, outgoing, inspiring to others, relationship-oriented, enthusiastic, warm, optimistic, ability to see the bright side of life and the good in other people. They genuinely like people, are rarely found alone, and freely interact with people.

They are talkative, always the center of the conversation. They are prone to mask the behavior and morals of the people around them on impulsive. They can be undisciplined, rude, susceptible to exaggerate, and need to appear successful (even to the point of an exaggeration). They will ignore the responsibilities to be with people.

They lack persistence and are weak-willed, anxious, caring people who will do things for other people, almost to the point of servitude. A very charming, gracious person. Takes on responsibilities and makes decisions very well (sometimes).

Able to express and receive large amounts of love and affection. They are warm and easy to get to know and emotionally open.

 

TEMPERAMENT 4

SUPINE

 

The Melancholy expresses little need for and, as true introverts, they tend to shy away from social contact. A Supine does not express much need for much social contact either; however, their need is VERY great! Like the Sanguine, they have a great need for social relationships. They look like they “don’t” want it but effectively hide their needs and expect you to read their mind. And if you fail to read their mind correctly, they will be “hurt.”

Supines have a great desire to serve others. They possess an inborn gentle spirit. As youngsters, they are often tormented and abused by other children. They are typically slow to fight back. Instead, they tend to internalize their anger and hurt, believing they deserve the treatment they receive.

Dependability, ability to enforce “the policies” set by others, and to serve those they follow, their caretakers, with absolute loyalty. A Supine will always be inclined to seek out others' advice when trying to decide. Supines feel very inadequate and consider themselves incapable of making a good decision on their own. They may seek out the counsel of several and become quite confused if they receive differing opinions.

They are prone to aggressive disorders, open dependence, and are defensive against loss of position. Having weak willpower, a tendency to feel powerless and feel they are at the mercy of others, they have such an intense need to serve others. They often become “natural born victims.” Other temperament types may view the Supine as a dominating individual. By all outward appearances, they are. But the truth is that they are manipulating others into taking care of them, and do not want the responsibility of actual decision making.

If they feel emotionally safe, they can respond to love and be open emotionally. If appropriately treated, Supines are capable of absolute and total commitment to deep personal relationships. However, if a Supine feels safe in a close, personal relationship, they can respond and return expressions of caring. They can become intensely loyal, producing absolute, complete faithfulness. No temperament is more prone to this kind of intense loyalty.

Supines are incapable of initiating love and affection. They require constant reassurance that they are loved, needed, and appreciated. Because of their inability or unwillingness to express their needs, most Supines fail to get their needs met. While they appear reserved and calm, they genuinely need close, personal affection, love, and attention. Since they find it nearly impossible to express themselves, they simply cannot get their needs communicated.

This temperament needs surface relationships.

 

TEMPERAMENT 5

PHELMATIC

 

The ability to perform tedious duties correlates to both tasks and people for the Phlegmatic. They are calm, easygoing, extraordinarily efficient, and perfectionistic. The Phlegmatic can function quite well in a hostile social setting. Nothing “ruffles their feathers.”

Unwillingness to become involved, they tend to be an observer rather than a participant, and use of a verbal defense that often hurts others.

The tendency to be convenient, conservative, peace-loving, and an acceptable peacemaker/arbitrator.

They are indecisive, tend to procrastinate, and can be challenging to motivate. They use verbal defenses that often-hurt others; it is used against anyone who tries to motivate or control them, particularly Cholerics.

Well-balanced, easygoing, non-demanding, calm, and realistic in demands for love and affection.

Phlegmatics shy away from deep relationships. They tend to observe only, rarely are they self-sacrificing, unemotional, and inexpressive. Verbal defenses are used to protect the low energy supply regarding personal affection.

 

The summary of these God-given temperament traits is but a glimpse of our character's attributes; the why and how we react, respond and express ourselves to people, places, and circumstances. Individually, we are a combination of two or more in different areas; inclusion, control, and affection.

Learn in-depth who you are and why you think and behave as you do. This knowledge and understanding are essential in surface acquittances and more so in intimate relationships.

 

Individual spiritual temperament profile and coaching available.